shopping-bags-101122-02In a world where total security and self-worth is justified by how many friends you can surround yourself with and the material wealth and fame you have. Our pressing desire for friends and material wealth to fill the vacuum in our lives has always hit rock bottom. We always find ourselves in a position to buy what we don’t need to impress on people to raise the level of our self worth and the evil tendency of finding ourselves in wrong company and wrong places at a wrong time is just a tip of the iceberg. They are all a façade and an illusion to the human quest for fulfillment. A new ride, a mansion and designer wear, a new class of people can change your status to size up with the best but I can bet you, in three to four months everything you have will lose its appeal and the cushion they give to you will be out-of-place with time. “Things” are temporal only God is eternal and when He is the center of what we have; what a great joy it brings”

People that come into our lives in God’s plan and purpose are to sharpen us to see the fullness of God in Christ and ponder that quality life of God to compliment our uniqueness in God but not to fulfill our emotional needs in and of themselves. Have you ever met a person thinking; “wow, this is a soul mate” “how cool s/he is and all that kind of stuff” and later when the layers of that person’s life begun to fall off, you realize s/he is not different from a demon? It is only men that have life that can give you life!

For instance, it is the responsibility of every husband to provide security, affection and love for their wives and family. Let me be realistic here, my friend…no man in and of themselves will be able to provide what they have not received from God, even in their utmost best. This means, man whether rich or poor will try in the best interest of their family to give out the best, but their best will not be enough to meet a woman’s emotional need daily. It is important that we shift our focus from man and look unto Jesus daily in our relationships, for Him to manifest Himself in their lives by faith that we may not be totally disappointed. The standards we set for mortal men who don’t have the quality of life or God or are living by that life are too high for any man to fulfill….the reason we see two people before the altar on friday and goes to the divorce court on Tuesday and all the I-can-helpinconsistencies in many relationships.

Don’t harbor bitterness against your partner or friends for their inability to meet your emotional expectations in all arena’s of your relationship. That kind of life will have an adverse effect on your destiny one way or the other and later be regretted for your high standards for a mortal man. Be thankful to God for his or her best life and trust the Lord to manifest in the dead areas of that person to compliment who you are in Christ. It is a defeated purpose to surround yourself with people who don’t have Christ life or the E-Life;  chose your friends carefully, don’t propose to a person because of his or her looks and later to be caged in a prison of despair… because his or her cuteness and sexiness will definitely become very familiar and can’t also serve a purpose that only God can.

Friend, the words of Jesus to instill peace and direction spoken over 2,000 years ago still echoes deeply to the very foundation of our society for us to hear and apply the truth of His word so that we would be freed from the chains of materialism which contains our soul to the neglect of a loving God; “And He said to them, Guard yourselves and keep free from all covetousness (the immoderate desire for wealth, the greedy longing to have more); for a man’s life does not consist in and is not derived from possessing overflowing abundance or that which is over and above his needs”. (Luke 12:15 (AMP). Remember; “God is not against you having possessions; He is against possessions having you. Don’t forget He is called a Jealous God and wants no distractions in His relationship with you”. Christ must become the center of your material wealth and not the material wealth as the center of your life. Being anchored to sinking riches and mortal men is like building skyscrapers in sand, without a solid foundation to sustain the building for a longer time.

‘For in him we live and move and have our being.’[A] As some of your own poets have said, ‘We are his offspring. (Acts 17:28 NIV)

An Open Letter to Hot-Blooded Young Men


Grace attracts sinners. Since I am someone who preaches radical grace, I get a lot of emails and Facebook messages from sinning Christians. Very few are looking for help in overcoming sin; almost all of them want an assurance that God will continue to love them despite their bad behavior. More often than not, these messages come from young men who are living as though they were married, even though they are not.

Since I grow weary of being an an agony aunt for men who should know better, this post is addressed to all of you who are wrestling with sin, but particularly to hot-blooded young males. Here are my responses to five commonly asked questions:

1. Will God love me if I keep sinning?

Yes, absolutely! I know this is not what manmade religion has told you, but you need to know that God’s love for you is unrelated to your moral performance. He loves us because He is love. “For God so loved the world that He sent His only begotten Son” (Joh 3:16). Are you part of “the world”? Then God loves you. “But God demonstrates his own love for us in this: While we were still sinners, Christ died for us.” (Rom 5:8).

There are many variables in life but God’s love is the one constant you can bank on. You can be certain that He loves you. A far better question to ask is, “Do you know and enjoy His love?” The prodigal’s father loved him constantly but the prodigal did not know and benefit from his love for as long as his attention was elsewhere.

Every one of us has needs. These needs are designed to lead us to Jesus (see Php 4:19). If you’re not getting your needs met in Jesus, you will make inferior choices – and this is where the trouble starts.

2. Does God’s grace mean I can continue to live in sin?

No. Grace brings freedom and yes, that includes the freedom to make poor choices, but if you use your freedom to enslave yourself to sin or religion, you have completely missed the point of grace (Gal 5:1).

A Christian who runs after sin is like a prisoner who has been released into the custody of gracious king, who then uses his freedom to re-offend and do all the things that got him imprisoned in the first place. Now our King is extremely gracious. He won’t send you back to prison. But you may send yourself there.

The King of kings didn’t give His life as your ransom just so that you run back to the clay-pits Egypt. That’s going in the wrong direction. Egypt is history. We’ve got places to go and grace is going to take us there. Move on to the Promised Land of His love for that is where life really begins.

3. Will I lose my salvation if I choose to keep sinning?

No. Jesus is your salvation; the Holy Spirit is your eternal guarantee (2 Cor 1:22). If sinning caused us to lose our salvation, then heaven would be empty.

But the question troubles me. Religion has got us so obsessed with making heaven and avoiding hell that we’ve put life on hold. The earth is not a waiting room for eternity. This is the place where Real Life begins (see Joh 17:3)! Don’t put your life on hold by living captive to the flesh. Salvation is not there and then; it’s here and now. God’s will is for you to experience heaven-on-earth today. But choose the way of sin – make dumb decisions, sow to the flesh – and you’ll experience hell-on-earth.

Religion would have us frame the questions of life in terms of good and evil. “Shouldn’t we do good and avoid evil?” But this is fruit from the forbidden tree; it is not the heavenly metric of grace. It’s not that the question is inherently bad, it just won’t lead you anywhere near the right Answer.

We don’t earn grace by doing good; neither do we forfeit grace by doing evil. If anything, His grace shines all the more when we sin (Rom 5:20). The purpose of grace is to give you life where sin has given you death. Grace is the antidote to the poison of sin. Now that you’ve been saved from death, stop drinking the poison. Drink instead from the well of His life.

4. If God loves me and my salvation is secure, then why can’t I keep doing what I’m doing?

Because sin is stupid. It’s like texting on the freeway. Just because you can do it, doesn’t mean you should. The world will tell you that “if it feels good, do it” and “as long as it’s harming no one, what’s the problem?” But these two mantras are flawed. Live from your feelings and you’ll end up enslaved to your appetites. You will be a shadow of your real self.

This is the true message of the cross. When we seek to save ourselves by doing what seems right in our own sight, we lose ourselves, but when we trust Him, then we really live. Understand that I am not calling you to take a vow of chastity. Aside from the fact that law-based solutions don’t work, this is not the life God has called us to. Following Jesus is not about starving the flesh – that’s asceticism and it’s as much a flesh-trip as any indulgence. Following Jesus is about reckoning yourself dead to the world and it dead to you and allowing Him to live His life through you. Trust me – His life is way more fun than yours!

“As long as it’s harming no one…” How do you know it’s not harming no one? Do you have perfect knowledge of the future? Do you know for sure that this lady you’re keeping house with is going to be your wife and not the wife of some other man? Will she be the mother of your children or the mother of someone else’s children? If you are certain that she will be your wife for life, then marry her. But if you’re uncertain, then stop playing games and grow up. Be a man. People are far too precious to fool around with.

5. I can’t help myself. I’m not sure that I could stop even if I wanted to.

That’s not a question; that’s a declaration of unbelief in the grace of God that empowers us to say no to ungodliness (Tit 2:12).

In the natural it may be true that you are enslaved to addiction. You may be so deep in a rut that you can’t see the sun. But that doesn’t mean you are without help and without options. Come on – your Helper is God! No one is beyond the reach of His transforming love and grace. I’ve met countless people who have been completely changed from one kind of person into another by His grace. In the kingdom of His grace this happens all the time.

But transformation rarely happens among those who don’t believe. So stop looking at yourself as a victim. Stop speaking lies over your life – that’s rampant unbelief in the Son of God who lives in you. Look instead to your Mighty Redeemer. Confess your true identity in Christ. When you get up in the morning and another day of sin beckons, look at yourself in the mirror and say, “I am my Father’s Son and He loves me! I am the righteousness of God in Christ Jesus. As He is in heaven, so am I in this world!”

I’m not preaching faith plus self-effort. I’m preaching faith in His mighty grace!

Beliefs need to be spoken and acted upon for them to become real in our experience. The world will try and tell you that you are the product of your choices and behaviors. But God says you are His dearly beloved son. So choose who you would listen to and be who you really are.

This is not the place where I talk about overcoming sin. If you would like help in that direction, I recommend, for the younger men, this excellent post by Daniel Silva, and for the older men, this post and this book by Bill Gillham.

e2r_windowFor now, I will end with this: Any theology that doesn’t empower you to overcome sin is worse-than-useless. It leaves people worse off because it saddles them with guilt and condemnation. This is why grace is infinitely better than law-based religion. Grace is not a set of rules that condemn, it is a victorious Overcomer living His overcoming life through you.

– Paul Ellis



For if, while we were enemies, we were reconciled to God through the death of His Son, then how much more, having been reconciled, will we be saved by His life! (Romans 5:10 HCSB)

Wow! Saved by His life… The only way to live the quality life as a believing Christian is to surrender self or come to the end of self and be conscious of the indwelling presence of Christ in your born again Spirit to live this life effortlessly on this side of eternity.

You remember the day you became born again? You probably didn’t have a Bible, never have done any good WORKS, name not registered yet in the Church’s registry, didn’t know how to dry fast nor paying your tithe and offerings (which are all good), wasn’t in your best self but you were on cloud nine (we call it first love) for just one reason…the presence of Christ living liberty in your human vessel independent of your efforts.. After sometime in your journey as a Christian you realize the honeymoon moments of your new experience was depleting and for all you know, everything just fizzled into the thin air. Some lasted for a month others fell of walking through the tight rope of the Church they identified with within a year or too. How so many wish they were in their first moments as Christians. I sometime hear people say; “wow, I remember the good old days” It’s possible, my friend to live today better than yesterday!

Hmmm! What really did happened McDaniels? There are a whole lot of transitions but Here is one of the unfortunate reasons among the lot; The Church sometimes distracts you from living His effortless life through you to following their 70 to 90 steps of its human tradition and dogmas without which you will be counted as unfit in that Assembly. Staring at this long list…you start trying through self effort until you climb to the 30th step and didn’t have the strength again to keep climbing. This attitude of trying to fit in instead of embracing how fit you are through Christ Jesus kills the benefits (Gal 5:2) that the life of Christ offers. There are folks who are bound in guilt, shame, unworthiness as they compare their journey to those they think are better than them as far as church ordinances are concerned (don’t get me wrong, there is a place for ordinances in but its diabolic when its human centered and not Christ centered)

For instance; if they don’t give tithes, offering (don’t throw stones on my head Pastor, I know you need the tithe) and can’t pray or fast like others and inadequate too, in the Church. These same folks were not able to do all these things I have just mentioned but never did they felt a sense of guilt or shame before God but were so excited in their new found relationship with Christ…money or no money they were the first on the front row of the Church, worshiping like they were crazy. The secret! They were more conscious of Christ and not of themselves! They have not yet get accustomed to the long list of DO’s and DONT’s of that denomination…To be honest with you, some have thousands of DONT’s and its followers look wretched and miserable than they were as unbelievers. When me and you deviates from being Christ centered (living His life through us) we fall into carnality and that form of religion breeds hypocrisy and frustration.

Listen to the Apostle of grace, Paul and download this truth for your freedom: Galatians 3:3 (NKJV) Are you so foolish? Having begun in the Spirit, are you now being made perfect by the flesh?
When you start in the spirit, am not talking about being spooky or holier than thou attitude. Am talking about spirit controlled life. A life motivated and persuaded by the word of God. Your underlying thought is Christ…everything you did flows out of the abundant life of love, joy, peace, boldness and the totality of God in you. Fasting, Church attendance, evangelism, and Bible reading were all done not because you have to do it to earn points from God. The influential force was an absolute love of the Father shared abroad in your Spirit. If you read your Bible or pay tithe because you have to pay it and pray with the clock on your face…is what we call religious bondage. You do it but it is out of joy and peace. I pray that God will grant you the understanding even up to this moment. Halleluiah!!

Nevertheless I have this against you, that you have left your first love. (Revelation 2:4 (NKJV)

Your first love is the embracing love of Christ, (Revelation 2:4) and it’s this love from Him that keeps the momentum of the honeymoon till the day He returns. Do you have this life (John 10:10) or you are tired and weary of religion (Mathew 11:28-30). Jesus says; “Come and you will find rest for your souls” He want to love you and others through you…He brings new joy that religion has taking away from you. How much do you want it?

Let us pray: “Dear Lord Jesus, I surrender to you my life of trying to live your life on my own and by faith I embrace and rest in the power of the Holy Spirit to do the impossible. I boldly confess that I am worthy, dearly loved and accepted into your kingdom…Today your life shines through me and all will behold your glory’ Amen!



I am astonished that you are so quickly deserting him who called you in the grace of Christ and are turning to a different gospel— not that there is another one, but there are some who trouble you and want to distort the gospel of Christ. But even if we or an angel from heaven should preach to you a gospel contrary to the one we preached to you, let him be accursed. (Galatians 1:6-8 ESV)

When ministers of the gospel portray God as a more distant Father from the rest and only personal to some “distinguished few” like themselves, so to keep men always grappling at their feet and look to them for hope instead of looking unto Jesus with affection as dearly beloved sons and daughters. That form of Christianity is total bondage and enslavement in it’s highest order
– mGm

Humility is not…

Humility is not how badly you look down on yourself and esteem others but how good you look on yourself from the mirror of Christ to be able to look on others with acceptance and respect. To be humble is to come to the end of self and be totally dependent on God.

We consider the poor, the moody, and the weak among us to be humble and those whose actions are drawn from the wealth of who they are in God as prideful. Wait until the poor becomes rich and the weak have a life makeover and you be the judge.
– mGm

No, the Lord has told us what is good. What he requires of us is this: to do what is just, to show constant love, and to live in humble fellowship with our God. (Micah 6:8 GNB)