WHAT LOVE IS AND NOT


WHAT LOVE IS AND NOT

Love and faith are the most powerful forces on earth. Love births and drives the later. This means love commands faith to perform. Without love; giving is genuinly impossible and living will never exist . By love faith creates life and by it with nothing everything was made. What love cannot deliver nothing can. Love is never a feeling as many believe; though it can be felt. Love is not a mere action provoked by feelings because it can be acted and feigned. Love is not lust. Love is not truly defined by the first drunken stages of burning affection or that strong early emotional stage of its existence or discovery for someone. I mean that early stage of love between a man and a woman. True love lingers on; it is tested, consistent, and enduring no matter how long it lasts. It is too strong to be broken in courts- divorce. Love is stronger than mere marital bond. Love is not one of those things you stumble on or you discover on the path of life. Love is a decision. Love is not a passionate feeling of romantic or sexual desire for someone. Even a harlot feels the same for an exceptionally desirable client. Love is not born out of the flesh, it is not a fruit of the soul; though defined and articulated by it. Love is the wellspring of the spirita- the highest self of man HIDDEN IN THE HEART. The most powerful things are of the spirit even memory not intellect. The sense-governed mind is limited but the spirit is limitless. Also the things of the spirit, for love is limitless, unbarred and unstoppable.

If all definitions above fail to define love, then what is love?

We are all used to one or more definitions of love above, yet love is never any of those descriptions. Before I define love you need to know that Love is not a principle neither is it a strategy or a psychology. Love even faith is a spiritual force. From my short three decades of existence, studies, researches and loads of observations and from both my painful and joyful experiences I have come to realise that; love is simply giving and giving and giving until it hurts without any form of selfish gains whatsoever. Every giving in love is deliberately and absolutely targeted to the profitting of the beneficiary. You can give without loving but you can never love without giving. For giving is the only and ultimate proof of love. Giving to a dimension, magnitude and how that it costs you pains but absolute gains to your beneficiary.Mother Teresa, the ‘angel of mercy’ who founded the Missionaries of Charity In Kolkata, which set up about 570 homes for the poor and spread in about 125 countries, serving the poorest of the poor has these to say in her National Prayer Break fast Speech in Washinton D.C. on February 4, 1994.She said, ”Love always hurts…Love begins at home, and It is not how much we do but how much love we put into what we do. I had the most extraordinary experience of love of a neighbour from a Hindu family. A gentleman came to our house and said ,” Mother Teresa there is a family who has not eaten for long. Do something.“ So I took some rice and went there immediately . And I saw the children, their eyes shinning with hunger . I don’t know if you have ever seen hunger but I have seen it very often. And the mother of the family took the rice I gave her, “Where did you go? What did you do?” And she gave me a very simple answer: ”They are hungry also.” What struck me was that she knew (despite her hungry state). “And who were they?” A muslim family. And she knew. I didn’t bring any more rice that evening, because I wanted them, Hindus and Muslims- to enjoy the joy of sharing. But there those children, radiating joy, sharing the joy and peace with their mother because she had the love to give until it hurts. And you see , this is where love begins: at home, in the family. God will never forget us, and there is something you and I can always share that joy with all we come in contact with. Let us make that one point: that no one, no child will be unwanted, unloved, uncared for, or killed and thrown away. And give until it hurts- with a smile… One evening we went out and we picked up four people from the street. And one of them was in a terrible condition. I told the Sisters: “You take care of the other three; I will take care of the one who looked worse.” So I did for her all that my love can do. I put her in bed, and there was a beautiful smile on her face. She took hold of my hand, and she said one thing only: Thank you.”Then she died.I could not help but examine my conscience before her. I asked “What would I say if I were in her place? And my answer was very simple. I would have tried to draw a little attention to my self. I would have said, I am hungry, I am dying, I am cold, I am in pain” or something like that. But she gave me much more- she gave me her grateful love. And she died with (love) a smile on her face. Then there was the man we picked up from the drain, half-eaten by worms. And after we had brought him home, he only said, “I have lived like an animal in the street , but I am going to die as an angel, loved and cared for.” Then, after we had removed the worms in this body, all he said – with a big smile- was: Sister I am going home to God.” And he died. It was so wonderful to see the greatness of that man, who could speak like that without blaming anybody, without comparing anything. Like an angel, this is the greatness of people who are spiritually rich, even when they are materially poor.”

The state of a person, an organization or a nation either in lack or abundance or wellbeing is a reflection of the love that has been given or received or the love withheld in hatred. We can never be too poor or too rich to give. Neither can we be too weak or too strong to give. Love is so limitless no matter the pressure and condition, it always gives. No matter who you are or how you are or where you are with love, you will always be a genuine giver.

In this book we will address the burning issues and the unrevealed truth about love; its painful emissions, promotional levels, transitional and projectile powers of love. We will also clarify its true source, true nature, its classifications and fluidity, its potency and above all the trans-generational impact and rewards of love. This love note is a powerful and secretive emissary from me to you.

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By Francis Adeshina

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